First time poster and on mobile so sorry. My gf we’ll say S and me are fighting quite frequently atm. A little back story S is a single mother who has always done things on her own and swore off relationships all together until we met. I myself am a single father who was in the same boat as S. We’ve both had hard times and been through a lot.
Now to the part that has been causing most of our conflicts. S has a mother we’ll call her M. M has been in and out of her life and has costed S a considerable amount of money in the past. M has almost got S evicted from the apartment we share now and has been an addict for most of the past 22yrs.
I know that family will always be family but S has tried time and time again to help her mother M get clean and sober and get a job. But nothing sticks. M has ran up a credit card that S got for her and has gotten over $1000 in toll money using S car. She has also taken S’s main car and ran off with it for a couple days with no contact.
M’s parents have tried to help but have given up and are telling S to do the same. Now M is back after the last episode of causing problems for us both by dropping contact last minute when S’s child needed to be babysat and we both had work. M is back to staying on the couch and it’s causing tension for our relationship. I didn’t sign up to fight about financially taking care of M who has already costed us over $1000 and is using S for her own gains. Just asking for advice because M is using us again and I don’t think our relationship can handle it anymore.
TL;DR my Gf’s mom is sleeping on our couch again after letting us down time and time and costing us and grandparents thousands of dollars. I don’t like it and don’t want to financially support her mother anymore and watch someone I love get hurt and used again.