I 20F just began recently being intimate with my boyfriend 21M. We have been best friends for 6 years ish and recently began dating as we both confessed we had feelings for eachother. Just adding this to emphasize, I am so comfortable with him and I know him like the back of my hand, and vise versa, he is so gentle and kind and reassuring and respectful, so he is NOT the issue here.
We had sex for the first time a few days ago, my first time ever, but not his. He was very gentle and sweet and although it hurt and was not enjoyable to me, it was still a very pleasant and loving experience to share with him and I plan to continue doing so. He felt horrible that I wasn’t able to enjoy it and he isn’t worried about finishing at all, he actually didn’t because I said I wanted to stop and we just cuddled. But, that being said last night things began progressing and I said I didn’t want to have sex again right now as I was still sore from the night prior, but that I still wanted to be intimate and do other things.
So things continued to progress and he was fingering me and did a little bit of oral stuff (mostly just kissing, he didn’t want to go all in because of me being sore and not having an in depth conversation about it first, which we have since had and he knows I’m all for it now) but it took almost an hour and a half of this to make me feel any sort of release. Don’t get me wrong, it was an AMAZING hour and a half but it just felt like it shouldn’t have taken so long for me to have that release especially when it felt so good. But, I sometimes struggle getting myself to that point, which he knew, so he had me show him what I do so he could do it and he did amazingly, it just still took forever.
My question is, is there anything else we should try to be able to get me to that point easier? He wasn’t frustrated by any means, more so concerned that he was the issue which I assured him that he wasn’t, but I don’t understand why it takes so long for me to orgasm, and if that’s the case when we do start having sex again I’m concerned that it will take a long time for me to achieve it then, even though I know most women don’t during sex anyways. My boyfriend is seriously the best though and wants to make sure I have a great time every time and feel fulfilled after each encounter intimately we have, weather that means I orgasmed or I tell him I’m done. He’d much rather me orgasm every time though but I’ve told him that might not be realistic unfortunately.
So is there anything else you all recommend for me/us to try? I’ve only ever orgasmed to clit stimulation, but that is also the only thing I ever tried alone. Thanks!