I find it so difficult to relax and stop overthinking during sex, and it's causing some erection issues.
For example, I will either get so caught up with hoping I don't lose erection, that I eventually do, or I get these "self sabotaging" thoughts. Like everything could be fine and all of a sudden I'll think
"what if I lose it now." Or I start thinking ridiculous things like my brain will literally say "think of your sick pet" or things along those lines?
These thoughts literally feel like a second person in my head who is trying to sabotage me, and I don't know how to stop them.
If anyone has any advice, it would be much appreciated. For reference, my SO and I have been together almost ten years, and this feeling comes and goes in periods of a couple of months. For a few months everything could be fine, then it goes back to these thoughts.