Hi all, my (26F) boyfriend (29M) has lived with his parents his whole life and is struggling to move out. He has had a well paying job for about 5 years now so money is not the issue. When we’ve talked I’ve also explicitly asked about if money is the issue and have always gotten no as the answer.
Since we started dating I’ve been really understanding about his situation, I can understand why moving out would’ve been hard during the pandemic and I have been super patient with him. But it’s now coming up on ~1.5 years together and I’m tired. Recently he’s been looking at apartments but only after I pushed him and reminded him.
I’m honestly a bit nervous that this is a red flag for his decision making skills and I’m feeling like this will be an issue as we build a life together. I’m particularly concerned about the fact that I have to push/remind/tell him explicitly to do certain things (not just related to moving but other things in the relationship too). I already feel exhausted and I fear this is going to make me angry and resentful towards him.
He’s stated numerous times that moving out is extremely anxiety inducing for him and I’ve been super understanding. But every time I ask him what’s causing the anxiety, he says he’s afraid he’ll pick “the wrong place.” I’m just not sure what to do here and how to help him. If anyone’s been in a similar situation any advice is appreciated!