I (40f) went on a date with a 42m 1.5 weeks ago. It was a great date (we both agreed), multiple times during the date he mentioned how he wanted to see me again, he politely asked to exchange numbers, texted me when he got home saying thanks for the great first date and that I was just lovely! I concurred and sent him a screenshot shot of adding him to my calendar for our second date (which should've been yesterday).
We chatted the day after our date. He wanted to clarify that he was good with spending more than an hour with me per default calendar entry settings.
I checked in with him Sun, Tues, and Thursday. Just short chats – 1 or 2 exchanges each. Tuesday to confirm the details of our date. Thursday to ask if we could push it back 30 minutes, due to a training I had earlier in the day getting a time change. He seemed to be enthusiastic and engaged and said he was looking forward to it.
Saturday, my training goes over – I profusely apologize, feel bad and ask if we can push it back 30 minutes. He responds that he has to be in another city by 5. Our original date had been set for 2pm, due to the double push backs it'd be 315-330. He asks how long it would take (our date activity). [Like, what in the.. ]
I let him know how long and ask if he would like to reschedule. He says that would be best and asks what my day looks like for tomorrow (today/sunday). I let him know – and SILENCE.
I don't hear from him at all.
So today about 2pm, I text "Hey, just checking in with you. Would you like to maintain this connection?."
Nope. Nada. Nothing.
My brain fails to compute. It takes a few seconds perhaps to communicate that things change?
I could see how my asking to push back our date twice could be a turnoff and aggravating for some.
Any advice on how to not let it turn me off dating? How is one supposed to believe someone is actually into you; when they could say it – then POOF. ?