Hi all š
So, for context, I've F22 been in a relationship (which turned into a situationship – he M27 had a major depressive episode so he decided to end our relationship, we stayed in touch but said he doesn't wanna put a label on us until he heals in case something like that happens again) for a little over a year now with this guy. He lives a couple of hours away from me so on average we meet up once a month. Sometimes sooner than that, sometimes later than that. Each time we meet up, things always get a little, uh, physical. Recently I set a boundary with him that we shouldn't do anything sexual again.
So we met yesterday and before that we met two weeks ago. Before we met two weeks ago, I had stated the boundary that we shouldn't do anything sexual. A few things happened two weeks ago as well as yesterday. I'll start with two weeks ago.
2 weeks ago: we cuddled (which was fine cos I never said I didn't wanna do that with him anymore) during which he tried kissing me a few times and I turned away each time. Then I stood up whilst he was sat down and he hugged my legs which I was fine with but he then basically nuzzled his head near where my v is. I laughed it off and said what are you doing, he laughed and said you're wearing clothes it's fine. I didn't say anything cos tbh I didn't mind and I enjoyed it. Things escalated slightly let's just say but it was fully consensual. However the day after that happened I got really upset that I let that happen so I told him that we shouldn't do anything sexual again fr. This leads us onto what happened yesterday.
Yesterday we met up, I wore a full length skirt but without leggings or tights underneath as the weather was supposed to be hot. Obviously no one would have been able to tell if I was or wasn't wearing anything underneath, but when we sat up on a wall I guess my skirt moved up a little. He asked 'are you not wearing leggings?' I said 'no, it's meant to be hot today', he said 'let's see' and started lifting up my skirt. I batted him away and told him to stop that. He stopped.
Later on we were kinda cuddling and he was just holding me, it was just cosy and nothing sexual. He then started putting his hand down the front of my top. I moved his hand away and said 'no inappropriate touching! That's the boundary we discussed'. Later on when we were sat next to each other, he took my hand to hold it which was fine, but then he moved it over on top of his dick (over his clothes). I yanked my hand back and told him no.
Now, before I established these boundaries if he did any of these things I would have been fine with it as we had that kind of vibe but he did these things in the past two weeks after I established these boundaries that we shouldn't do anything sexual. He disrespected my boundaries that's for sure, but I'm just not certain if this could be considered sexual assault or not. Let me know your thoughts please š„ŗ