I posted this in LGBT but maybe this will work better. Hey guys so I’m really struggling with this information, so I’ll give you bit of backstory. When we first met he kind of touched on it, saying he’s has done stuff with trans people before. It didn’t bother me because he still identified as straight and said he just likes femininity in general. I thought maybe it was just him experimenting. It has always been in the back of my mind but did not start seriously bothering me until now. The topic came up again to which this time I asked if he was bi and he said no, probably just pansexual. Idk why but that sent a pit in my stomach. I am not transphobic in any shape or form, in fact it’s not the trans people that I’m bothered with, I’m more bothered with the fact I feel as if he wants to try it again, and if he secretly wants a trans woman. He has had grindr on his phone in the past and parts of me thinks he liked them so much that he downloaded Grindr, he hasnt done that since we have been dating of course but it’s just kind of uneasy to me. He says he only wants me and he loves me very much and that it doesn’t change anything but something about this is really making me scared. Please help! I don’t know what to do and I love him so much I really do not want to break up with him, but this is giving me so much anxiety. Also we have already talked about it and thats when he reassured me that I’m his person, but how can I know he doesn’t secretly want a trans woman over a cis woman. I heard pan guys like the blend of trans women, and I cannot compete with that. I know this sounds maybe unfair but i truly don’t know what to do, does anyone have a similar situation and does this feeling get better? Can any guys put their input who also like trans and cis woman, or honestly any advice helps! Thanks. AGAIN, I AM NOT TRANSPHOBIC!!
Also I don’t want to bring up the topic again because he seems to get embarrassed about it and uncomfortable and he already has told me he wants me. Before someone comments that lol