I '27/F' have been in a relationship with my boyfriend 'M/30' for 3 years, and we've been living together for 2. It's been over a year since he lost his job, and it's been tough carrying all the financial burden on my own. I can tell something's not right.
What frustrates me is that he doesn't seem to have the energy or urgency to find a new job. He keeps putting it off, saying he's still too stressed or depressed. He just plays games all day.
The hardest part is that this is really the only red flag with him. He does the house chores, runs errands, and he's kind, nice, and sweet.
I've tried to give him all the space and support he needs, but I don't see him getting a job anytime soon, and that's stressing me out. I've gained a lot of weight because I'm eating away my stress.
Whenever I try to bring up the topic, he says 'not right now.' I can see that he's really burned out, but what about me? I'm tired too, from carrying all the financial weight.
I kind of resent him now because he's just there playing games. Sometimes, I think about breaking up with him, but I'm worried he might do something drastic like committing s*cd* or hurting himself.
I just want to be free from this burden. Should I give him an ultimatum?