what was the best thing you’ve learned from your therapy sessions?

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1. That I hate therapy

2. That just because I wasn’t physically or verbally or abused as a child it doesn’t mean my childhood experience was not traumatic in many ways.

   That’s okay to call what I went through traumatic and it’s okay to process it as trauma.

   That the reason I can’t access my emotions and feel properly or accept that I have a right to have emotions is because of this trauma.

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4. That I am not the jackass whisperer and have no responsibility for their shitty behavior. I also don’t have to tolerate jackass behavior in my life. Trash goes by the curb.

5. Don’t depend on anyone but you to fix yourself. Some people might cross paths with you and make your journey to heal easier but if you’re not willing to start you won’t get it done.

6. Don’t depend on anyone but you to fix yourself. Some people might cross paths with you and make your journey to heal easier but if you’re not willing to start you won’t get it done.

7. I can’t even pay people to give a toss about my problems. Soooo many bad therapists out there.

8. how to really communicate well.

9. Not every story I tell myself is true.

10. My therapist told me that either everything will be ok and I worry needlessly, or I’m strong enough to handle whatever happens.

11. I learned the root cause of why I was getting stuck in the same dumb situations was because I was living other people’s values and not my own. And I learned how to identify my values.

12. I write down notes from my therapy sessions so I cycle through certain things but right now I really love what my therapist told me about healing. She explained that therapy opens doors to what that healing and another life could look like. When you experience life, good relationships, achieving goals, and standing up for yourself because you’ve found alternative ways of being, that is what healing *feels* like.

    For so long I thought therapy would make me better and I wouldn’t have to take risks or be vulnerable in my real life so that was helpful to me.

13. Trauma doesn’t define me, how I overcame it does.

14. First: If a situation happens repeatedly I am probably in some kind involved. Either by choosing subconsciously the people to interact with or because I contribute to it in some other way.

    Second: this has nothing to do with guilt but with responsibility for my own repeated behaviour.

    For example: all kids in school avoided me. Then I found out they thought I don’t want to have anything to do with them because I was always ignoring their tries for contact (I didn’t, I just didn’t recognise them)

15. There are a lot of really good things I learned, but overall, the fact that I’m not a bad person and that my unhappy/traumatic experiences were not because I deserved them—people just target kind/sensitive people because our existence makes them feel bad about themselves.

    The hardest thing for me to wrap my head around was that you could be as “good” as you wanted (moral perfectionism) and still get hurt, so I chose to blame myself in the past because I couldn’t deal with how chaotic that concept is.

16. That who I am isn’t defined by the few bad things that I’ve done. I regret them and it’s ok to think about them but it doesn’t make me a terrible person as long as I’ve learned from them.

17. I’ve learned how to express my needs, and how to verbalize emotions without shame. I guess I was pretty lucky to meet a good therapist, I see some people in the comment had a bad experience 😕

18. This just made me so excited because I have a therapy appointment today.