My husband told me that his therapist said “your wife is the problem”.
He has a very obvious anger issue. He has abused me in the past and still continues to emotionally abuse me and I am in the process of figuring out my finances to divorce him.
I told him he needed therapy to help control emotions, communicate better, and work on himself. I have only seen worse behavior since beginning his therapy. He told me to go to his therapy sessions, but I’m so angry by his behavior, I told him no for now.
He told me I have a communication problem because I refuse to go to his therapy sessions, but I feel he needs one on one therapy to work on his issues.
He has a horrible habit of stonewalling and giving me the silent treatment when I express any type of emotion. I’ve been dealing with health issues and wanted to speak to him about it. I told him to please respond back and stop staring at me without blinking because it made me feel like I was talking to a wall. Then he proceeded to get on his phone and ignore me. I asked him nicely to please get off his phone I felt ignored. That’s when he brought up the “my therapist says my wife is the problem”. I don’t know why that hurt so bad, I was just trying to communicate. I started crying and he got up slammed the door and went to sleep at 6pm. I don’t understand how in the world a therapist could ever say I am in the wrong. This is just one example of daily behavior from him.
Is this normal for a therapist to validate abusive behavior?