I 26F have been with my boyfriend 31M for a year and a half. He's a great person but not the best at managing money. We both make about the same amount of money. He lives in my house and is usually late on his $700 rent out of $2600 mortgage. He regularly runs out of money and borrows it from me. He currently owes me about $1200. A week ago his truck was repossessed in the middle of the night. I offered to help him write up a budget and manage his finances. He said yes and let me know that I was going to be upset because there was a recent charge from only fans. I lost it and asked him to find somewhere else to stay for a few days. The issue is that he believes that this doesn't count as cheating and said he thought I would be okay with it because it's just porn. I feel as if it's a very clear boundary that l've had set throughout our entire relationship and is the same as asking girls on Snapchat for nudes. Everyone I've asked agrees with me and everyone he's asked agrees with him. He's apologized and promised to never do it again but follows up the apology with
"but it still wasn't cheating". I need to know if I'm being overly dramatic or if my feelings are valid. I have felt violently ill and insecure about myself since I found out.