I talked about this story twice I believe.
Tl;dr :
I (31,F) met, let's call him K (30,M) in May on Tinder. A really weird relationship because everything was clicking; we instantly became really close.but K met a girl 2/3 times before we decided to meet. He explained he really wanted to meet but as friends. We did and text every single day since our first conversation on tinder. Our relationship is quite strange… we sleep in the same bed naked, go on airbnb trip with jacuzzi together (as long as the room doesn't look "romantic" which almost seem to be his only few limits in the friendship), take baths with the other in the room, doing spa and massage day at home But without any sexual interactions or kisses. We would hug and say we love each other during certain emotional conversations. We would also hug during the night. I still don't know if he was a sleep or not but he happened to place his hand in weirdly sensual places like my hip or my waist. ect… meanwhile seeing this same girl he met before me. I once tried to talk about the fact that to me it might be more and he was really sad I was taking some distance but said even without this girl, we have an incredible bound but it would never be in a romantic way. To me his response was … strange
Ok fast forward a few days ago….
I am just speechless, I have no idea what to think. I genuinely believe he's a really nice person and even make me think of myself sometimes. I don't think he would hurt me on purpose but actually by trying not to hurt me. But at the exact same time I see how weird and twisted this relationship is, and I don't get why he would need me or need to do this starting a new relationship with someone else. Apparently his GF knows about me and how we met and has no problem with it…
It has been 5days without any text, the first time we ever stopped talking everyday. He is on his first trip out of the country (we're from EU) with her after 4months of dating. And…. I'm totally lost and feels played from the start. Or am I trying to find a reason when really there's no reason for this behavior ? We helped each other a lot in a short period of time so I don't know if I am in the wrong for feeling weird about just a really strong bond..