Hey everyone,
this is more of a vent than asking for a specific advice, but I would welcome any perspective if you can give it to me.
So I (28m) was dating this girl (26f) for just a little over a month and in my eyes everything was going great. That was also reinforced by the things she told me while we were dating – she felt good with, liked me, appreciated that I listened to her needs and stuff like that. Three day before the break up she even told me things like that. Then we didn’t see each other for three days and after that she told me that she was thinking about things and doesn’t feel like we could become anything more.
I was kind of devastated, I thought about that potentially of course, but I wasn’t planning on making things too serious too soon. The vibe was just great and I genuienly can’t see if and potentialy what I did wrong. It’s not the first time something like that happened to me. There were no other specific reasons given as to why she decided like this.
I used to think that there are some issues that could cause this which is why I’m in therapy for a few years now working on things. I felt like I could openly communicate with her and did so for the whole period of out dating. I understand that people sometimes just don’t feel it, but it feels weird together with things she was saying and I would like to take something out of that to learn for the future.
Now just to be sure, I’m not planning to reach out to her, I understand it wouldn’t help anyone.
tl;dr: Girl broke up with me when everything seemed great