I am M 20 so is my GF (F 20) and we have been together for 2 years. Exactly 1 year ago she had her first manic episode while we where together at her country for vacation. At first her parents were terrible at accepting that their daughter is mentally ill and have been really bad at adressing the problem and I became the one who took care of her. Her love for me is infinite and she would really take a bullet for me since I was there when her family wasn't and in general she is… or at least was the best and most kind person i have ever met.
Here comes the catch. Since that first episode she has a ton of mood swings that she is venting out on me since I am the person whom she trust most. She has become EXTREMELY jealous for one of my female chlidhood friends that i have known for at least 8 years and she feels so insecure and thinks that i will cheat her with that friend that now has reached a point where she tells me to cut her off from my life or we break up. ( That childhood friend is studying abroad so i only see her like 5 times per year but my GF is still obssessed with that). Also me and my GF we see each other like evevry other day, but when some days i want to go out with the boys she starts telling me stuff like " oh our relationship is onesided " , " You don't care about me only about your friends " , " I don't fit in your life, your program is so full " which make me sad and feel like shit as if I am the bad in the case. Lastly she is kinda vengful, so if i do something she doesn't like she would do something i don't like to pay me back with the same coin.
In general since her first Manic episode i have been a nurse, a pshychologist and the punching bag BUT all that with my will she never asked for any of these. She don't want to do these stuff but when her emotions come of the hinge she becomes another person that really stresses me out .
Right now she is not in my country, she went to visit family in another one. There she has a lot of friends and i am thinking thats the best time to break up since she would be around friends and family that would take care of her. Her parents are bulgarian but she grew up in greece as I did. In Greece she doesn't have as many friends as in Bulgaria but her Home is in Greece. I want the break up to be as painless as possible
Should we break up now over text, or wait to come back to our country so I can sort this face to face. She stays there for another 3 weeks and the she comes back. What should I do?? I feel lost