Hi!
I have a boyfriend of 9 months and we live together for 6 months so we usually alone in our apartment throught the year. He sometimes (every 2 months or less) comes with me to my family's house to spend time with them and me.
My mother has a habit of teasing people and she does it with my bf too. (example: she had a comment about my boyfriends laptop being dirty and she made a comment, my bf got a new car recently and she did not praise it or wished safe travels, simply because she does not have interests in cars and did not think of whishing him safe travels immediately, which my bf thinks is essential, my mom opened the door at him once while he was on the toilet and then made a joke about it later, he was offended by it as well)
I know my mother that she's being funny and not
judgemental and rude but my bf does not know her that well and he doesn't even consider it being a joke and deeply offended by these.
I don't know if I should talk to my mom about it, or if mom being wrong in this.
I understeand that these things could come off as rudeness, and I think that my mom's style is not for everyone but I do think that my bf is a little extra sensitive about this situation.
What would you do in my position?