My partner (m32) and I (f30) met on a dating app. He has a good earning career (my bi-weekly check of $1600 he makes in a few days). He supports his family and does well for himself. He’s able to travel and buy anything for himself. As for me I’m trying to work on myself (applying to other jobs that pay more) because the money I earn isn’t much when you have bills and rent like the average American. When we spend time together every weekend it’s nice. He pays for almost everything and sometimes I offer to pay. I live in NYC and he lives in NJ. I’m usually the one that travels to him and there are times when he picks me up.
We’ve had our issues in the beginning and now we’re ok. But there are times that when he drops me off he asks me what my plans are and I feel stupid because i usually don’t have anything going on for myself because I can’t seem to afford things to do (I’m living paycheck to paycheck). On his dating profile I remember I saw he wants someone with ambition and I feel like I lack that. In all honestly I feel useless and no I don’t want a pity party or to play the victim but it’s hard to get out of that funk. Has anyone felt this way when they’re dating someone who has a higher paying salary or when you feel like you can’t do much. Of course, there are free things to do but when I get back home it’s already 2 or 3 pm.