My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years. We have 3 kids (4,3, and almost 2).
Our relationship has been extremely rocky since day 1. I could go into way more detail about that, but I don’t want to make this the longest post ever lol.
But basically this mask he wore completely came off the moment we were married.
He has a very know it all attitude, criticizes me constantly, demeans and belittles me whenever we argue or I don’t do something he wants, and now he’s starting to become very controlling over finances.
Over the past couple weeks, right after we had a BIG financial fight, he’s become extremely distant and disconnected (even more so than before) and hardly talks to me during the day. During sex, he doesn’t seem into it anymore at all, and even started getting on me the other day right in the middle of it.
He’s also owned a flip phone for several years because he didn’t want to have a smartphone and pay extra for it, but his phone was ruined and the only other cheap phone they had available through his service was one that had a touch screen.
A couple days ago I realized he put a passcode on it too.
He’s never cared about his phones, or passcodes, or any of that until recently. When we first started dating he actually had a smartphone and didn’t have a passcode. But now he does?
We were also at the beach last week and he ran into some coworkers, two of them women, and throughout the entire time we were there, his eyes kept going back to the group of coworkers.
Is this all in my head? Am I overthinking all of this? I feel like I’m losing my mind though, especially since he hardly talks to me, touches me, cuddles with me… we’ve had our difficult moments but this has been going on for weeks now.