Pretty much the title. He won’t touch my vagina unless I ask. I don’t want to ask as it really isn’t sexy for me to do that! He never has to ask me to touch his penis but when it comes to my vulva, he never takes the initiative. I’ve asked him about it and he says that a) his hands are dirty (mechanic), b) I don’t let him, and c) he doesn’t think about it.
As for a, he has taken to washing his hands more thoroughly, I appreciate that. And b, I’m 9 months pregnant. It’s not that I don’t let him, it’s that I sleep on my side (we mainly have sex in the morning) and my vulva/clit isn’t readily accessible because my belly is in the way. However, he doesn’t try to open my legs or get access to it at all. C I think is the main reason, he doesn’t think about it, which to me translates to the fact that he doesn’t care.
What can I do? How can I get him to touch my vagina without me explicitly asking him to every time?