I (30F) and spouse (27M) Are back and fourth in our sex life. When we first started dating 6 years ago he was mainly the one to initiate for sex. Then it became a health balance of both. Here lately I've been wanting it everyday multiple times a day. I even suggested car sex and have planned for us to go to a cabin next month for a sex weekend. Bought lingerie. BUT I am the only one initiating anything in the bedroom. He gets off of work during the week, eats dinner showers watches some youtube and goes to sleep. The only time he will hold off on sleeping is if I initiate and do all the work while he lays there. I'm starting to get very frustrated. OH! I also bought toys to try and spice things up. What should I do? I've tried talking to him but he just says he's tired or he will then initiate but then I don't want it if I have to say something.
TlDR; I'm the only one initiating sex and doing all the work. Spouse will only do it if I say something