We've been together 5 years and we are reigniting our sex play.
We watched Love, Sex and Goop and it was pretty eye-opening for both of us. Highly recommend this show because it taught me I was being too up-tight about sex (it's hard for me to orgasm due to sexual trauma) and he was being too one dimensional about sex (felt boring and repetitive and he was kinda resistant to trying new kinky stuff)
Anyway we did the Sexual Blueprint quiz to connect with each other. We both got sensual, which is great because I realised we are more sexually compatible than we thought. He was adamant that the test was not accurate and his sexual Blueprint was sexual (which is not me at all)
Anyway I brought him a bit into my world and I did ASMR on him yesterday, I love ASMR. I did it as a test, and copied what I saw on that show. I whispered a book to him yesterday and was lightly touching and tapping his legs up and down and he blushed and said felt good, which I think surprised HIM more than it surprised ME 😂😂😂😂 he'd heard of ASMR but always thought it was weird. We had sex afterwards and it wasn't rushed, it felt slow and I was more immersed in it and less in my head. I didn't cum but it felt really good, and good for him too.
I realised last night that this is the best way to get him to open up and relax, and vice versa – sensual play!!!!
The problem is that I've never done Sensual play before and neither has he. I'm really excited to try this new world of sensual play, I just know it's going to open a whole new world for the both of us. Any games, sensual play, that we can incorporate, let me know. My friend told me about using a feather and that blew my mind, and she suggested hot oil too. But I want to try lots of other things that aren't JUST sexual, but eventually lead TO sex, like the asmr thing I did yesterday?
Please keep in mind I'm a victim of sexual trauma so I don't want to go in too fast, too quickly. Anyway thank you!