When we were 16 I was open about wanting to have oral all the time. She was opening up as I was with her but we enjoyed it.
Now after 4 years in the military and 1 year since being out now 26, her text about wanting to give me oral, I’m depressed reading it and not knowing what to respond when it’s something I want and my sex life is dull with anxiety about it, feeling no confidence.
I see mental health providers, I get help. But sex is another area hurt and not improving for me because of feeling awkward & not the same.
What do you do with these problems to help when sex is now right there but now it’s been a me problem & I’ve communicated to her with support from her.