I’m not sure why I’ve decided to write a post. Just feel low and want to vent in the hope that someone else is also going through something similar and might have a hopeful story.
I’ve turned F37 today. I’m single, never married, never had kids.
I was in a relationship for 13years but we grew apart and things ended a couple of years ago.
I’ve been dating guys but it’s hard to date when you have this clock ticking and you’re looking for the right one. It’s too much pressure for me let alone a potential partner. Just so you know, I don’t pressure anyone. I always say I’m not in a rush and that I’m open to possibility of having kids. I feel like this helps to explain my situation and also relieve some pressure.
However, I’ve come to the realisation that it’s a high probability I’ll never be able to have kids because a relationship needs time to build and also both partners need to be on the same life line and want the same goals, or at least be open to them. It doesn’t give me enough time.
I also feel like a lot of guys don’t want an older woman who’s never been married or had kids. Apparently it’s a ‘red flag’ which is bizarre to me given the fact that everyone’s life is different and not everyone has the same lifeline.
So today, instead of celebrating my birthday, I’m grieving over the fact that I may never be a mother.
EDIT: Wow, I did not expect to come back and read such lovely and encouraging messages from everyone. Thank you all, and also for the Birthday wishes too! You’ve made me feel supported and optimistic. It means a lot to me, I really appreciate it 🤍