Hi all,
Me (23, f) and my boyfriend (24,m) have been together for almost 2 years now. The first year was super rough, due to external causes, but I decided to support him and we managed through, things have gotten better.
Before I continue, a couple things you should know to understand the situation:
We live together
I’m not someone who enjoys night life and partying, I’m very serious about my future as I’m working on a business so I don’t see value in partying my weekends away. He knows this.
I also don’t drink alcohol (he told me he didn’t either) as I have a strong aversion against it.
Over the course of our relationship we have been very open in communicating our goals for the future and what we want from this relationship and at the time we both decided that when things would get better we would work hard towards building a future together. Now we have gotten at the point where we could be working out, saving money and all the good stuff. And all he does is going out to parties with his friends for entire weekends on end.
I don’t feel comfortable with him being gone and getting wasted every weekend (he doesn’t even sleep at home) and I’m also really sad because he cancels plans we had made “because he will be hangover and not in the mood”……
He truly wasn’t like this before. But I’m starting to feel like that maybe was just because he was going through it?
I’ve tried to talk to him about it and his response always is that I am in no position to tell him what to do. Which I’m not, I’m just explaining how I’m feeling but I’m not calling him or bothering him once he’s gone at all.
So what should I do?
Please any advice is so welcome. I’m so lost. I want us both to be happy.
Tl;dr. My boyfriend pretended to want the same type of life I want but decides to party away all weekends and cancel plans we make while I work on our future. What should I do?