I (F27) and husband (M32) have known each other for 5 years, married 2. Initially he used to plan dates and we used to make out a lot, but ever since we have started to live together he avoids intimacy. Even when he has a boner, he just avoids sex or insists on role playing or me dressing up a certain way. He masturbates incase I don't oblige.
I wanna have normal regular sex at times where I don't have to change into sexy lingerie everytime or dress up before sex. So if I fail to dress up according to his desire he avoids sex for weeks even a month. I love him a lot and find him very attractive and it makes me very happy when we have sex.
But as a woman with very high sex drive it kills me to have sex so rarely that I could count on my fingers. I have had open discussion with him but he doesn't understand how it feels for me. What could I do?