My husband 40s and I 30s female have been together for 15 years. He and I have always worked very similar hours. 9 to 5 kinda job. (I cut back a bit still I am working 50 hrs a week after our child 6m was born)
My husband got a much wanted (he worked very hard I'm very happy) promotion. He is now working very late. (Sometimes coming home at 10 or 11pm)
I am now taking on more responsibilities on the child front and homelife. Our son has noticed and is questioning why and I just tell him daddy is working hard for us. But he and I are noticing the absence of him in our lives.
I've brought it up and he brushes off saying this is what he deserves and wants. But it's become really noticeable to our child and family. (Its the same reason my husband's parents seperated)
Any advice and help is welcome on how to deal with this issue so seperation doesnt seem like the only option.
Edit : since everyone is hung up on the ages I wrote 40s and 30s (meaning not 30 or 40 exactly). I'm in my mid 30s. 36 to be exact and we met when we were in our 20s. I didnt want to go into full detail. Don't be gross.
We are in an adjustment period and working thru it while he's become a partner in his family law firm. The hours are much longer and the family time is going down.