(Sorry if I formatted this poorly it is my first Reddit post)
Me (20m) and my gf(21f) have been together for nearly a year now nearing 11 months but the way our relationship started I feel still affects me a lot. Me and my girlfriend met each other last year in January and we were friends for a good amount of time but I started catching feelings for her around February. Around this time we had a little thing and I told her that I liked her and she continued to tell me she was unsure if she liked me back. Fast forward to March there’s like a month gap and she tells me that she wants to pursue a relationship now and she realized she had feelings for me.
Within a week after she initially told me that the feelings were mutual. She tells me that during that month period from February to March she slept with my best friend, she had feelings for him, and she did it because she thought it would lead to something with him, which it didn’t because he didn’t want anything. This obviously upset me at the time a lot because my friend knew how much I actually liked her and he knew every single thing about it more than anyone else, so I completely removed him from my life and in April me and my girlfriend began dating.
This leads to today where I still feel like everyday that the only reason she realized how good I was, was the fact that she was utterly rejected by this guy, in a sense she did choose me over him at the time because they were best friends too and she stopped talking to him to respect our relationship and she always tells me that she didn’t actually want to sleep with him but he essentially pressured her into it. but whenever I think about this I always feel like shit and feel like I wasn’t good enough to be her first choice. Because it feels like she just got played by this guy and she began dating me cause she knew that I was good for her. So I don’t know what to do cause I know I’ve been very happy while we’ve dated but I don’t know if I can let this go because I want to I just don’t know how.
Tl;dr: my girlfriend slept with my best friend and had feelings for him and things didn’t work out for them so she came to me and now we are dating.
3 comments
It’s a weird scenario bc ur sleeping with your friends ex which violates the bro code but that aside u gotta hype yourself up a bit and have some confidence
Good thing you cut him off. And yes, she waited to see if something would happen with him and when it didnt, she came to you. You can say you were a second option. I personally would not have dated her after learning that she slept with your best friend.
you’re 100% right you were her second choice find someone who makes u their first choice