I've browed the search history and can't seem to find much help as most threads are older. Myself (33M) and SO (32F) have been together for over 11 years. Things are great in just about every aspect, no complaints. We tell each other how we feel about each other almost everyday, it's very reassuring to each of us and keeps the feelings flowing.
Our sex life has always been great, we have quickies, romantic sex, rough sex, sex with and without toys, etc. Early in our relationship we'd talk about sex here and there but it was never in detail, just kind of dirty talk. She absolutely refuses to watch porn together also.
My main want and maybe I'm being selfish, and overthinking things, but I want to know her sexual fantasies. I've asked multiple times and never been able to get her to open up and talk about them, I always get the "I don't really have any, you know what I like" response. I've tried 3 or 4 times over the span of our relationship to send the "sex questionnaires" and "couples sex quizzes" and she never does them.
What can I do? It really bothers me she won't even do the quizzes that hides what we both aren't into. Everyone has sexual fantasies, it's natural, I've explained that to her as well. I've never even been able to tell her mine, she has zero interest lol. HELP!