I’m posting this for advice because I’m feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what to do. My husband and I have been together for almost a decade and recently got married. I found out that he hired an escort. It was out of pure coincidence I even found out about it, and I’m still in shock and struggling to process it all.
From what I understand, he didn’t go through with it all. He met up with the escort but didn’t follow through but it’s still leaving me questioning everything. Especially since he initially denied all this happened when I first confronted him.
We’ve had a few issues in the past related to his behavior on social media, such as following and saving pictures of Instagram models and subscribing to an OF account. We talked about these instances and he promised he wouldn’t engage in such activities again, which I believe he hasn’t since. However, this situation with the escort feels like a new and much more significant breach of trust.
He explained that his actions were a result of feeling sexual frustrated, as we hadn’t been intimate recently due to my period and the last time we were intimate was a little over 2 weeks agoHe’s always said sex is just sex for him and doesn’t involve feelings, whereas I see it differently and consider it an important emotional connection.
I’m deeply conflicted because, despite our history and recent marriage, I’ve always believed that infidelity or crossing boundaries like this is a dealbreaker for me. I’m embarrassed and unsure if I can ever move past this. I haven’t shared this with any friends or family and wanted an unbiased opinion.
He’s suggested couples therapy and promised he’ll do anything I want to get past this but I’m torn between working through this or walking away.
TL;DR: Found out my husband hired an escort but didn’t go through with it. I’m unsure if I should try couples therapy or end the relationship. Looking for advice on how to handle this situation.