So, my wife and I are mid sixties, married for 40 years. We're incredibly happy and truly enjoy each others' company. We've had our intimacy issues here and there, but what couple hasn't. We tragically lost our first child , and that affected both of us and our sex life. I've probably always felt a little rejected, tbh.
She's (obviously) post menopausal, and can't take HRT, so basically she has no sexual desire (her words). But we do get naked twice a week and cuddle and sometimes make out. We schedule our weekly sex time. She's up for it, and is very much into responsive desire. She gives me the opportunity and things usually go pretty well. I think we're both satisfied. She always gets her O first.
So, she just doesn't think of sex, although her time to actually initiate sex is still around 11 days if we haven't. So, she's not completely dead..
Anyway, the other week i had some Ferroro Rocher chocolates that someone gave me, and brought them to sexy time to start things off. She liked it.
So, I just looked in the fridge and I noticed there was a box of moon pies there. It's a southern thing from when we were young. Moon Pies and RC Cola. I asked her about it, and she said, with a devilish grin, "Oh, those are for our special time"?.
So, this is spouse appreciation. She's decided that, even though she really doesn't feel the desire just going through the day, she'll lean into keeping us connected and enjoy the intimacy and prospect of feeling that desire.
Really can't ask for anything more.