My girlfriend and I were dating for 13 years now, and we are having an issue with our relationship that may be totally ended as she wanted to break up because I can't surrender going to gym.
She and I were first-time gym goers. We started our journey in May of this year since our bodies were completely out of shape. This idea came from her, and I thought it was just a hype or something we'd end after a few days or a week, but she wanted it, so I joined. I work from home, so we agreed to go to the gym after my job in the afternoon. The first month feels wonderful and my body begins to feel great. however, the second month is when the struggle begins.
She told me she won't go to the gym anymore since she doesn't feel confident or peaceful. She also said that I was microcheating on her at the gym. She said I was seeing girls inside, but most of the time I was staring blankly, catching my breath, with all the people walking in front of me. She gets mad on occasion, but I'm not sure why. So I started isolating myself inside while working out and chatting to her after each set. Even before we started, I avoided chatting to girls in the gym since I knew it would cause a significant problem with her. All of the adjustments I made to make her feel more at ease while I was at the gym were insufficient, and she is going to stop this activity entirely.
I explain to her that we go to the gym for our health and to improve our body shape, and that is still the purpose as of now. I'm in my third month at the gym, and I go alone without her knowledge. I feel horrible about it, but I'm not doing anything wrong from my perspective. I am currently experiencing little improvements on my body, which I feel happy with. I am upset about this, and I told her that I have no motivation to do well at all, because if she does not feel confident or peaceful about it, I should quit.
She is currently disconnected and responds to me coldly. Because I insisted on doing this, she offered to quit our relationship because she believes I am undervaluing her decision. My girlfriend makes me feel untrustworthy and misunderstood. I never attempted to cheat on her after we started dating. I give all of the reasons I have to ensure that I am not doing anything wrong.
I just needed to know what I could do about it. I love her so much and wanted to save her, and this type of breakup is unacceptable to me since I insisted on going to the gym without affecting our relationship.
Thank you.