Me/Background: Male, Mid-50s, no children, waited until 40s to marry (the marriage ended due to her infidelity), semi-retired, active lifestyle, reside in a major city
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I find myself back in the dating pool, a position I never thought I'd be in again. I waited until later in life (in my 40s) to get married for a variety of reasons, one of which was my belief that it would increase my chances of a successful marriage and growing old with the one I loved. However, that didn't work out as I had hoped. Nevertheless, here I am.
I have a couple of questions for those familiar with the current dating scene for people aged 50 and above. I know about the datingover50 subreddit but I was hesitant to post there because my dating preference might not be well-received by everyone.
My first question is about meeting women in their early to mid-40s who don't have children. I understand that this might be challenging to find. I want to clarify that I'm not against children; after all, I was once a child (humor). However, I personally didn't want to have children (I'm the fun uncle). I've discussed this with my therapist, and she has advised me to reconsider this stance. I'm open to that (18+), for example, the woman who asked me out for this weekend has a college-age child, but it's just not my preference. Do you think this will be as difficult as I anticipate?
Second, I'm hesitant about using dating apps. I've seen a lot of posts about people using them, and I don't know if it's for me. Do you have any advice? I'm an extrovert and am okay with attending events, parties, mixers, and meeting people in real life. The downside is that it limits one's reach.
Any other advice, questions, etc. please let me know.
Thank you in advance for input provided.