Not getting any easier

I feel like I've been needlessly torturing myself for the better part of this year, I've crossed off my longass list of everything that makes me uncomfy, improv, public speaking, meetups, gotten therapy I've done it all but I'm still that socially hopeless person that I've been my whole life. And it is that bad I can't talk properly with anyone, family included, I'm just tryna desperately figure out wut I'm missing here