Do people generally actually enjoy sex?
I've had 3 long term partners and the sex there was really good, except the last one never made me come.. but it was still good.
I went to a BDSM club for the first time, and things were getting kind of hot, which led to sex, but it was terrible.
I get that it was platonic and that probably played a part .. but he lasted maybe two minutes, and was so soft and small I didn't/hardly felt him. I couldn't tell from his communication that he had come, I had to catch a glance at the condom…
Have I been lucky in the partners I've had? And this latest one is the norm? How often is sex bad?
I feel totally disheartened (not personally to him), but that if sex is like that 1/2 the time then I would actually rather wish to be asexual.