The other day someone rear ended me at a stop light totaling my car:/ Im getting a new car soon (bmw 330i) and I know Im going to be VERY protective of it and I want to know how to set a boundary.
Usually in my other car I would give people and friends rides or offer to drive us everywhere. I know people going forward will just assume Im going to give them rides or ask. So how would I handle it.
My sister told me to explain that its a new car and Im overprotective of it.
I dont like the idea of that because I consider it "over explaining myself" I dont owe someone an explanation so I want another way. She said saying a flat out "no" is rude.
EDIT: I will let close friends and family in my car I'm just more concerned about
A: random friends (non close) at university or classmates, wanting rides.
B: People always wanting me to be the one who drives or assuming I will.
C: People assuming im driving because I have a nice car and I can afford gas more than the rest so it should be me.
D: people asking for rides home especially when they live 30 minutes or more in the opposite direction of where I live. Im not your chauffer. Close friends sure (none from uni)
E: I dont want the possibility of being in another accident and them being in it with me
F: I dont want people in my brand new car. Its mine. Its normal to be protective of it.
G: I dont want people from Uni knowing what I drive. They dont need to know. It sparks issues.
H: Its the first car Im paying for myself out of high school.
Hope this helps since I clearly suck at communicating.