What kinks or fantasies you have done or would be willing to with FWB that would not to your spouse?

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1. That’s not the way it works for me, so I don’t think of it like that.

   What I choose to participate in with a specific sex partner is based on the alignment of what we each feel comfortable with, what we’d both like to do together, what we feel safe to do together, and what we authentically consent to do together. There’s no ranked list of fantasies or kinks that only specific commitment-types of relationships can access.

   If I’ve done things before that I don’t want to do now, it’s because I’ve decided that those things aren’t something I want to experience again right now for whatever reason. I fully expect any partner I have to respect that what matters in our relationship is what we each choose to consent to together now and not what either of us may have consented to in other relationships from our pasts.

2. I wouldn’t marry someone if I didn’t feel comfortable with them fulfilling anything like that. Might as well stay single until I find someone that will.

3. Degradation of any sort. I don’t want that in a marriage, but a fling? Fucking give ‘er.