How do you handle the holidays?

My husband and I have been together for nearly 8 years and every holiday comes with the same stress, how do we split our time between his family and mine? Context, we don’t have any children and don’t plan on doing that any time soon, so we’re not really in a position to start our own traditions, nor do we have the space in our home to be hosts. We’ve managed to satisfy everyone by spending Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his. That doesn’t solve Thanksgiving or Easter though, both families seem to expect us to eat a meal with them, even though those meals take place within a couple of hours of each other. Navigating this each year is just making the holidays less and less enjoyable. What do you do?