I've (22f) been with my girlfriend (22f) for almost 5 yrs now. We use to have the most amazing relationship ever and we still do have a great relationship but she's really dragging me down at this point.
She can't hold a job literally for no more then 3 months. When she does work she makes significantly less than me and I end up still financially supporting her. She genuinely has 0 motivation for anything. She barely leaves our room and she's content with being home all day watching tv. We don't have kids or anything so I really don't understand why I'm supporting her financially so young.
On top of the financial stuff she doesn't have any interest or hobbies and is extremely depressed. I thought it'd get better at some point and have encouraged her to get help, but for 5 yrs it's just gotten worse. She honestly uses her mental health an excuse to why she can’t work but it’s because she doesn’t want to work.
I love her so much and I know how deeply she loves me. I know a break up would destroy her. We've been together since we were in high school but she's dragging me down so bad.
I've been advancing in my career recently and really want to get out of my hometown and experience life but she's dragging me down financially so much it's impossible for that to be realistic.
I want to have the future we planned together but it is even worth it? I’m really torn any advice would help.
TLDR: my girlfriend has me financially supporting her at 22 with no motivation to change or get help