I get it, maybe I'm the problem here. I know myself well—I have social anxiety, I’ve struggled with depression, insomnia, I'm distant and I’m just not interested in most people. I know I should probably work on my flaws, BUT it blows my mind when people try so hard to be my friend. Like, why? Don’t you see I’m not nice or friendly, at least by normal standards? I'm super direct and blunt, so I assumed setting boundaries would be easy, but apparently, I’m wrong.
Here’s some stuff I’ve actually said in the past:
* “Don’t touch me, jeez. You’re invading my personal space”
* “Hey, I’m not a good friend. I don’t respond to messages quickly—quite the opposite, actually. I don’t have time for anyone but me, my goals, and my mental health. You don’t want me in your life, trust me.
And guess what? They still want to talk to me! WHAT. Usually, they respond with stuff like:
* “Oh no… Don’t say that, you’re a good person, I'm sure you’re just busy. <3”
And of course, I feel like frustrated trash.
I don’t know, I’m starting to think I attract people with low self-esteem. I don't know how to act anymore. Any advice?