You see it on this reddit but also IRL.
So many people, regardless of identity or background. Keep being treated terribly by all the wrong people. There's a shit ton of it.
The idea of a healthy relationship or relationship goals are less normalised than physical, mental, and sexual abuse.
Which in turn damages anything that is healthy developing and being found between people. Some people believe this doesn't jeopardise the good people out there but it seriously does. You break a person's heart over and over, redesign their idea of love so much they won't know what it is nor how to use it and why – because 'love' did it.