I know oneitis is stupid, I never thought this could happen to me. It is terrible, she just has everything I like. I met her some night 2 months ago when she was asking someone to have some food together later that night in our chatting room(we are all international students). I happened to forget my dinner that night so I went out with her. And yeah, I immediately relized something not cool will happen. She just has everything you want. (I have some female friends, but I don’t have feelings on any of them). So I asked her out for dinner the next week and she agreed. We went for dinner about 3-4 times and we went to see a movie once. But I can tell she just see me as friend. You can easily tell if someone is into you, and clearly she is not(cuz she never texts me). But I just still want to ask her out, even chatting with her makes me happy. But this week she turned down my invitation by saying she would be busy for a while(she gave me details about what she is busy about, we are all PhD students and things can get busy, but don’t have time for a dinner is a pure BS so I just take it as a soft rejection).
But I just feel so bad, I have met a lot of women in my life and none of them is like her. How should I get over this, usually when I get turned down I just go meet more girls but this time I don’t want to meet any new people. I know this is unhealthy and irrational, any tips to get over situations like this? If only I didn’t go out with her that night, the worst thing is that you know there is such a good girl but she is not for you.