My (30M) wife (33F) have been married for 4 years with 2 kids. I work full time and she stays home with the kids. Generally, I’m working 12 hours and then I come home and most nights I’m cooking dinner, doing dishes, and putting kids to bed. Sometimes, I send her to bed early because she’s overstimulated from the kids. By the end of it, I’m dead tired.
This is not reciprocated in anyway. If I ask for a break or an afternoon off it’s immediately shot down. Whenever I ask for one of these chores to be done by her, she treats it as if it nearly kills her. And of course, I’m just bombarded with posts from this group and other mom groups about how “being a SAHM is hard”. At a certain point I just keep doing this routine to stop feeling guilty and hope I can just work hard enough to earn some good will.
But now I’m just angry all the time. I’m spending my weekends just trying to be as quiet as I can be because being social is too hard now. Sometimes I snap at my wife and/or my kids. But I’m not mad, I’m just tired and want a break.