Two Issues: subtle comments and won’t touch me (Longish)

First, I think i’m supposed to apologize for formatting since i’m on my phone. Anyway, i’m(18F) 5’7 128 lbs and my boyfriend(18M) is 5’7 and probably 100 lbs if i had to guess. I am a healthy weight and have never really felt insecure about it until i got into this relationship. Apart of it is probably me personally knowing we’re the same height but i’m “bigger” than him. He has ADHD and his medicine (which he has been on most of his life) really messes up his appetite. He’s fit too though. Anyway, sometimes he would make comments about wanting us to workout together or really wanting to do my PE class with me but they always felt double sided and more like a push to get me to workout. I never want to assume his thought process and that he could be thinking anything like that, but he has also made other comments and a recent situation revealed a lot to me. He made a comment once about how he knew i was going to take off my pants when i got in my room even though he knew we both were because we were getting back into bed. The comment was unnecessary and i asked him what he meant and he rushed to say he didn’t mean anything else by it, implying what we both knew. except i didn’t imply that i just asked what he meant so it was almost like he filled in his own blank. Recently we were at a friends birthday dinner and three of the boys there were making fun of another one for his weight. I stood up for him and then my boyfriend tried to diffuse the situation?? His friends were being mean to their other friend and i stood up for him, he didn’t, then tried to gloss it all over. After, I addressed it and he said the kid was working on it, and was going to do this and whatever. Basically saying that the kid who his friends were making fun of, was working on it and that he was going to i guess lose weight? This response was very alarming because he wasn’t defending the boy nor saying there was really an issue with how his friends treated him, but that he was working on it. Outside of how he responded to that situation and handled it, it’s pushed me deeper into my own insecurity and thoughts about what he thinks of me and my weight. I am skinny with some weight in all the right places but i am still skinny and have not questioned that in a long time.

The other issue is that I am upset and dissatisfied in the bedroom. I feel like I give and have been giving way more than I’ve been receiving for a while now. We have had three other separate conversations where I have addressed and told him that I, 1) want us to work on our intimacy, 2) want more foreplay, 3) want to try to orgasm since i never have. These are three separate times where I have communicated my wants in the bedroom and have not seen change. To get specific, I give him head regularly AND we have sex extremely often where I ride <half the time and give him amazing sex. He has not touched me or given me head in like 2-3 months. I am upset and frustrated that i have been giving so much sexually to him (probably the best of his life if i’m being honest) and i’m receiving so little in return. He has also recently said that i never come on to him and i’m like well what do you expect? His initiation is “i think these need to come off” and doesn’t warm me up or turn me on (foreplay!!!) it’s just straight to it. So no I don’t really want to initiate or “come on to you” when you give the bare minimum to me. So all of that and the issue of the fact that we’ve had this similar conversation multiple times and nothing has come of it. I don’t feel heard and I feel sexually neglected. Like bro obviously your dick isn’t fucking making me cum. Definitely been fucking him not the other way around. Frustrated and fed up! He’s in Orlando right now and i told him i wanted to talk when he got back but i need to calm down and sort out the reality of this and what to even say or what this is. I never want to have to ask someone to do any of that, I would want them to do it out of their own will and wants to please me as their girlfriend. So it makes me wonder why he doesn’t. Is he lazy? not interested? selfish? This situation also does not make me feel better about the other current issue above. We’ve also had past bumps sexually that have made me insecure so whenever more stuff happens it just pushes me further away.

Would appreciate any thoughts or advice I could get on this situation before I have to talk to him.