I (18F) am in my first real relationship with my boyfriend (19M). We've been dating for 2 and a half months and yesterday we tried to have sex for the first time (for both of us) but it didn't go well.
Basically he only had a semi and it wouldn't go in me. After that we tried fingering and I tried to give him a hand job in return but he wasn't hard and after a while he got annoyed (not at me) that nothing was happening. When we were snuggling afterwards he admitted that since 2020 he has been addicted to porn and that he thinks that it's caused erectile dysfunction. At the time I didn't fully process this and played it off casually but I've spent the rest of yesterday and all of today thinking about it and freaking out.
This is not the only issue our relationship has had, but this feels like a make or break situation. I feel that I should also mention that my boyfriend is autistic. An issue weve had is his texting behaviour, he will text me often and get all sorry for himself if i don't reply the same day.
I'm not sure what to do about his porn addiction. I'm the only person he has told about it. And I've said before that he can tell me anything but this is more of a burden than I was expecting to have to deal with. I'm torn on whether or not I want to stay with him. I like him alot and I'd like to try to have sex with him again but I don't know how to navigate the situation. Is it better if I don't mention sex at all? Or is it better if we do try again?
How do I help him with his addiction without draining myself in the process?