I've noticed that people react negatively to me. For example:
- None of my professors look at me during class. They look at other students but not at me. If I ask a question, they answer and look at the other students.
- In a group of more than three people, no one looks at me. If someone is talking, they look at other people except me. If I start to say something, people also avoid looking at me.
- If I go somewhere with a friend and meet strangers, they talk to my friend and try not to look at me.
- People always look at everyone but me. It doesn't matter if I'm talking with strangers or family.
- Even my best friend and my father prefer not to look at me during group conversations.
- People very rarely ask me for help or anything. For example, yesterday girls from my group whom I have known for two months could not complete their homework. They asked a guy they had known for a few days, but not me. Although I often offered my help and was friendly with them. It makes me feel worthless.
- When people organise parties, they rarely invite me. They only invite me when I ask them to. Although I have often said that I love parties.
I have to say that when I talk to a person one-on-one, they make eye contact with me.
I asked my dad and mum why they don't look at me during conversations. They said there was nothing wrong with that.
I feel like an unpleasant and not normal person.
I'm a shy guy, but I try to be warm with people, smile and listen carefully when someone is talking. But other people's inattention makes my social anxiety worse.
I have a few explanations why people dislike me:
- I look tired. I have ptosis and small eyes. Maybe people find me ugly.
- I have a negative vibe. I find it hard to gesture and smile, I force myself . Maybe people can sense it.
But I know a lot of socially awkward people and other often make eye contact with them.
3) Combination of both
I'd like to understand why other people react to me this way. What can I do to make people treat me better?