TL;DR;: My boyfriend (m24) has some anxiety and unhealthy attachment issues and I (w22) want to let him know that he’s safe w me. We only date 2 months.
He’s a warm, loving guy and has all the qualities I’m looking for in man, but sometimes he freaks out for no reason and says that I’ll leave him, that he’s worse than I think etc. He works as a chef, which I think is amazing, I love his cooking, but he’s insecure, bc his friends earn better money, drive better cars etc. I told him it doesn’t matter to me, bc I’m not a type of a girl who’s looking for a guy who’s paying for my life, I have my own career and independence. Also I’m Slavic and I feel like I have different mindset than people in US, I don’t perceive money as a value, I care about freedom and relationships. I spent many years on therapy and I’m also bachelor in psychology, so maybe these are the reasons that I feel more secure and safe in relationships. But guys help me, I really want him to feel better about himself, he’s a wonderful guy. I want him to know that I’m not going anywhere and I date to marry, I really treat him seriously. How can I be better in letting him know that. Sometimes when I say gentle words to him, it seems like he doesn’t believe me. How can I break these walls?