I’ve been single for a while and my life has been happier than ever. I have incredibly high self worth, but here’s the thing: I tend to get obsessed with boys when I like them, and this can sometimes result in unhealthy patterns and I lose focus on myself and my own life in my pursuit of them. Recently, I’ve met this guy who I really really like, but unfortunately all the ‘self work’ I’ve done this past year feels like it’s been totally undone, as I’ve gone back to my old obsessive patterns 🫡🫡 here’s what I’ve been experiencing:
• decreased self-worth, telling myself things like ‘if you were prettier he’d text you back,’ ‘if you were smarter he’d want you more’
• feeling like my entire mood is based on whether or not he gives me attention
• inability to focus on my own life, such as work and study, because I’m distracted by HIM.
TLDR; For anyone else who deals with getting overinvoled and obsessive, WHAT HELPS YOU GET OVER YOURSELF? I recognise that this is a me problem.
Thank you in advance 😐