All the girls I dated gave me this impression that they're only dating me because I'm the best candidate they have right now, but that I'm still way below their expectations.
There is this dynamic where I feel like I'm the interviewee and I need to gain their approval, while they just sit there and judge my actions. There is no reciprocity. They pretty much never compliment me or do any nice things for me.
And this is further reinforced by the fact that many of them were dating other guys on the side, or left me for another guy a month in the relationship.
Honestly, I don't know what to think. I'm aware that at least in the beginning stages of relationship it's men that are expected to make things happen. But the lack of reciprocity and kindness is making this such a miserable experience.
I get rejected plenty, and it stings, but my god, actually getting a 'yes' and having to go through the dating phase with a girl is even worse. Is this the current state of relationships?