How do you deal with the fact that someone you had sex with (and don’t anymore) knows how you look naked and how you are in bed?

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1. I’ve never really considered it something to deal or given it any thought

2. The same way you feel about them naked and how they are in bed. It’s just not something you think about after the fact. At least I don’t.

3. It’s not something I have to **deal with**, it’s just how that works. Like, how do you deal with your doctor knowing what your genitals look like during a pap test? It’s just how it is. I knew it would happen, I consented to it. Its fine.

4. Non issue/nothing to “deal with”. If I chose to get naked and have sex with someone I accept that they can possibly recall it in the future…….

5. I have never considered that something to deal with.

6. Who cares? They just know I look great.

7. I don’t “deal” with it bc there’s nothing to deal with. We had our fun, it was a pleasant experience for both of us, we moved on. I don’t waste time being insecure about what someone I don’t see anymore thinks of me.

8. I consider them to be privileged to know that kind of information about me.

   Though honestly I really don’t think about it or care that they do. Giving birth will do that to you.

9. Cognitive dissonance. I think about it occasionally and get a little nauseous, but I move on.

10. I don’t see it as something to deal with. It’s not something I think about

11. You’re never the same lover with someone else anyway. It’s different with each person.

12. I wish them good memories and hope I have some too.

13. I feel sorry for them. Cause they have to remember that they briefly had the best and never will again.

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15. Doesn’t bother me or really affect my life at all.

    I also just don’t care if anybody has the knowledge about me. I give people permission to share everything.

16. Not really something to deal with, just how things work. I know how they look naked and how they are in bed too and I don’t feel like that’s some big gotcha. I expect only good reviews anyway.

17. Doesn’t bother me.I would say you would most likely forget about that person.

18. I try not to think about it. He tried to remind me about a month or two ago and it made me feel pretty disgusted. I went home and I cried out of anger and disgust. I had to talk to my therapist about that bit, and she said it sounded like a power-move tactic. People always say that falling in love rocks your world & I just wanna say so does falling out of it.