I’m bisexual with a sexual preference towards women. I’ve never been sexually attracted to any man before meeting my current boyfriend. We were friends at first, and I wasn’t initially sexually attracted to him; it only developed after we started dating and I fell in love.
When looking at the female figure, I can get turned on in seconds, but I’m having trouble getting turned on when I’m with him. Occasionally, I will get turned on, but only after 30 minutes of foreplay, and even then, I haven’t been able to orgasm yet. I’ve gotten very close to an orgasm, but I wasn’t able to release it. It just feels unfair that I have to resort to porn (of women) to orgasm, when I want to be able to experience it with my partner. I’ve heard that it’s very common for women in heterosexual relationships to have trouble reaching orgasm, but the area that I need help in is arousal.
My boyfriend and I are in a strictly monogamous relationship, and I wouldn’t want to be physically intimate with anyone else other than him, even if he was okay with it. In any case, I won’t break up with him over this because love has always been more important to me than the sexual aspect of relationships. I’ll still have sex with him, regardless if I feel pleasure or not, because I love making my partner feel good. My sexual needs aren’t my top priority, but it would be nice if I found out a way to become more aroused when I’m intimate with him.
Does anyone have any advice on what I could do?