My boyfriend is so dominant that he's practically inflexible when it comes to him being submissive, he is also VERY experienced and very teasing. He says that he would "like to see me try" and dominate him, that he will keep his mind open for me, tho he believes that no one can dom him. It's important to note that most of his exes were NPCs, he never experienced anyone dominating him (so he's sure of his dominant identity), they all just laid there leaving all the work to him and didn't care much for his enjoyment. So he did say that there is a possibility that he can be dommed, but nobody has tried, and I want to, but don't know how to approach it.
Meanwhile I'm a switch, so I enjoy both dominating and submitting, depending on how I feel, BUT I am VERY inexperienced compared to him.
I do not enjoy constantly being submissive, yet I do not know how to approach dominating someone like him. Before our relationship, whenever I sensed that whoever I'm flirting with is on the submissive and shy side, I would easily assert my dominance over them, flirt and say teasing things, make them blush. I want to make my boyfriend feel all these things with me, I want to make him submit and be a blushing shy mess and yet it feels like I am facing a level 100 boss and I am intimidated 💀
Here's what scares me:
– Him thinking that me "trying" to dom him is "cute". I don't want to be cute, I want to be palpably hot and irresistible to the point of him being weak in his knees.
– I have a fear of embarrassment. I'm new to sex, but I have a lot of sexting experience (from before I met him) and I know that I really enjoy dominating. He's so incredibly teasing (I love it, but in this case it adds to the intimidation factor) and he told me that "he'll let me have my fun", which sounds confident and sexy, but it also makes me think that he's just gonna indulge me so that I enjoy myself, but not actually submit to me and enjoy it himself. And imagining that makes me feel REALLY embarrassed and fills me anxiety.
We're LDR and I believe that it would be much easier to dominate him through certain physical actions, but until then, I would like to master my dirty talking since we obviously only have sex over the phone + it will be useful irl.
TLDR: My boyfriend is VERY experienced and VERY dominant. I am an inexperienced switch. I want to dom him, but don't know how to approach it and feel very embarrassed.
PLEASE BLESS ME WITH YOUR WISDOM AND TEACH ME 🙏🙏🙏